Looking through some old assignments in hope to help an essay I’m writing on feminism, I found this great gem and decided to share it. While my grammar and writing has gotten significantly better, I”m hoping it will change some point of views on celebrity hate.
Every day a celebrity logs onto their twitter or other social media account to see hate. Celebrities are affected by cyber bullying more than we think. Many celebrities break under the pressure, not only from their jobs but also from this online hate. They succumb to this hate by harming themselves, turning to alcohol, drugs, and many other avenues of self destruction.
In 2010, Demi Lovato “checked herself into a treatment center to deal with ‘emotional and physical issues’”(Moody 1). We now know that these issues included self harm, eating disorders, and drug abuse. All of these issues, however, were brought on by bullying. While, yes, she was bullied as a child, cyber-bullying as a celeb did nothing to help her condition, only making it worse. She chose, however, to help herself by going to rehab, something many celebs are not able to do.
Other celebrities, like LeAnn Rimes, get anxiety. LeAnn Rimes, after being cyber-bullied by fans of her husbands ex, admitted herself into treatment to get help. (Lee 1) Courtenay Semel says that “celebrities are humans. I think people forget that sometimes,” and also states “there was a time in my life when I didn’t have the coping mechanisms, and it didn’t matter what anyone said. It didn’t matter if a friend said to me, ‘Well, don’t go on your social media,’ or ‘Imagine what the other person looks like on the other side of the screen.’ Why should I not go on my social media for someone else?” She also has gone into rehab for online bullying from social media sites (Lee 1).Like Semel, many celebrities still go on twitter, instagram, etc. because its for their happiness, not a forum for others to pull them down. They have created a way to ignore and tolerate the hate instead of lashing out like some, or breaking down like others.
But why do kids feel that it’s okay to hate or bully someone online? They don’t really know this celebrity, do they? They don’t know if what the media says is true or not, nor do they know the personality of the celeb. They assume everything and that is completely wrong of them. Here are some actual quotes from twitter about celebrities. “If I could, I’d buy back stage passes to Taylor Swift just to tell her how much I hate her.” “I’m not gonna start shipping sophiam unless Sophia actually looks happy to be with Liam for once bc it always looks like her pet died idk” and worse. Sure these are simple hate, but there are horrid things said out there every day, including telling celebrities to die.
These kids have no idea that what they’re saying hurts people, living human beings with feelings. “Wealth and fame, though major assets to many of us, only play a supporting role when it comes to the human experience playing out,” (Truly 1) And the sad thing is, if they know, they don’t care. Deborah Temkin, Research and Policy Coordinator for Bullying Prevention Initiatives at the U.S. Department of Education, says, “kids get the idea that the online environment is almost like Las Vegas — what happens online is going to stay online,” but that’s not the truth (Lee 1). The affect of cruel words leads to horrible consequences. These children don’t realize how idiotic, childish, and hurtful they are being.
Now I’m not saying that I’ve never hated on a celebrity on the internet before, because I have. But last year, something changed that all. I was speaking out about the band Emblem 3 on my favorite social media website saying things along the lines of, “They suck, Fifth Harmony is so much better,” etc. But when a person confronted me, we had a long conversation on it, and it made me reevaluate the entirety of what I was saying. I was being rude and childish, and it wasn’t right, so I changed my ways. I vowed not to hate on celebrities, and people in general, on social medias or out loud, as it was wrong. I suddenly didn’t make sense to me why I was hating on people. It benefited me in no way, nor did it help others, only corrupted me, and potentially hurt the members of the band and their fans.
I know that when I see people giving hate to Taylor Swift, it makes me want to cry. Why would people push down such a kindhearted girl who donates her time and energy to others? Sure, that’s my opinion, but that’s what everybody thinks about their favorite celebrity. They think good about them, and when they see hurt, it does genuinely hurt them.
But still, I don’t think anyone should hate on somebody when they don’t know them personally. You can dislike a person in your own mind, but you don’t have to share it. But can you really hate somebody you don’t know? I want to know how that is emotionally and physically possible. It bothers me so much when people say “I hate ____ because I heard that they said _____,” or when they say “I hate ______ because they dated _____,” and the list of idiotic reasons goes on and on.
Plus, hate is a strong word. Do you really have that strong burning passion deep in your soul to here you can’t even look at their face? Because I bet that people just lie about that to seem all macho, all buff and big. You can’t truly hate somebody you don’t know, that you’ve never met. It’s just not possible.
But if everybody started liking the person they ‘hated,’ would these people suddenly switch sides? I think La Truly says is best when she states “Watching the Twittersphere overflow with high praise of her performance on Twitter brought me back to 2009 when the scathing comments about Lil’ Mama first started. Her one silly mistake of casually sauntering on stage during Jay Z and Alicia Keys’ VMA performance shifted Lil’ Mama’s career into neutral despite her successful stint as a judge… and her popular song, ‘Lip Gloss.’ We came for her. Hard. We insulted her talents as a rapper. We attacked her facial features. And we laughed loud and hard. We, in essence, bullied her with no remorse. We ostracized her for years but then sang her praises when she killed the role of ‘Left Eye.’ How fickle a crowd.” And it’s true. We switch sides so fast, it’s a part of being a human. We want to go with the flow, but sometimes the smart and better option is to go against the flow, and when everybody comes back you can be the proud person standing there at the end saying, “I stayed here when you all left.”
This brings up another of my stories. Remember Rebecca Black, and how we all laughed and cyber-bullied her because of her song Friday? Remember when the torment continued with her second song, My Moment? Now she’s a famous, and hilarious I might add, Youtuber. While people continued hating on her after Friday, I actually supported and defended her 2nd song. I thought it was a great stand against her haters, and that she was strong and courageous, and now I can say that I have been here since the beginning hen everybody else still hated her. Sure, when I fought against the flow, I got a few scratches and bruises myself, but I made it out alive and was able to stand by and support her.
When I’m on Instagram, and I see hate, I immediately respond. Instead of using curse words and hate on others myself (which sometimes I do happen to do, forgetting my morals, but later apologizing), I use facts and knowledge. I fight with peace asking people, “how would you feel? How do you think this person feels? What if this person hurts from it? What if this was happening to someone you love?” Many times, I have changed peoples ways, even though it’s large paragraphs that get my point across.
This, bullying, is an important topic anytime and anywhere, but we do not focus enough on others who are effected. As a poem I once wrote says,
“‘We’re just like everyone else!’ they cry,
But the haters still wet their eyes.
No one can see them crumbling,
No one can see them struggling,
They’re the same as us,
Only we know who they are.
They still ride the bus,
They still look at the stars.
There’s no reason to do what we do,
Can’t you see that they hurt too?”
This poem, whereas they may not ride the bus, emphasizes the fact that WE ARE JUST LIKE CELEBRITIES. We brush our teeth before bed, we play video games. The only difference, is that we know their names. Maybe money-wise as well, but not all rich people are famous.
So next time you are going to hate on a celebrity, remember that they have feelings too.
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I am dating a lovely bisexual person currently.
"BLESS THIS POST"
"WHY DOESNT THIS HAVE MORE NOTES"
"finally someone said it"
finally someone said it omg bless this post i’m reblogging again because it’s back why doesn’t it have more notes omg
"Fifth Harmony are just sluts."
"They only care about the money."
"Rude, untalented, attention hogs."
This video just. How can you not love and respect these 5 wonderful, inspiring, young women.
when u sneeze in front of your pet and they look like you’ve just offended their great ancestors
i use the word fuck so excessively i sometimes forget it’s a swear word
yes i like girls. do you need to know that? no get out of my face thank you.
you know when i die i’ll probably just be in the afterlife blogging like
"heaven has no free wi-fi? fuck this shit i’m going to hell"
how do you know hell has wifi
satan owes me several favors
you know what fucking sucks??? the fact that if i can’t openly like female musicians or appreciate their looks or their voices or anything really without having people throw weird ass looks my way because they assume i’m a raging lesbian LIKE SO FUCKING WHAT IF I AM GAY OR NOT GAY IT DOESN’T FUCKING MATTER I CAN APPRECIATE ANOTHER FEMALE WITHOUT BEING GAY and the reason it bothers me is not even the assumptions of being gay but because if it was a boy group people wouldn’t even ask “oh why do you like them” or “why do you have pictures of them in your room” BECAUSE I’M A GIRL AND I SHOULD HAVE PICTURES OF BOYS IN MY ROOM?? DO PEOPLE EVEN THINK PROPERLY WHY CAN’T I HAVE FIVE STRONG WOMEN OF COLOUR TO LOOK UP TO WHY CAN’T I HAVE REASONS TO BE HAPPY I AN A GIRL WHY DOES EVERYONE ASSUME THAT BECAUSE I AM YOUNG I AM OBSESSED WITH GOOD LOOKING MEN NO NO NO FUCKING STOP
OHMYGOD YES. in 8th grade I had a photo of Shay Mitchell in my binder and on multiple occasions I got asked if I was gay. Evertime i wear my 5h shirts, or pull out my phone (which has a 5h case) i get such rude looks my way. It’s so fucking rude and i fully agree with you on every level